One of the duties of parents to educate children to become independent. independent approach already used to, because the children wear their own clothes, put shoe laces, socks and many other small jobs. Sounds easy, but in practice it would have learned a number of obstacles. It is not uncommon, parents do not know the position or simply can not wait to see the baby tries to tie his shoes for a few minutes, but had not yet shown success.
Directly or give advice, solutions to do when the child is finished counting the argument with friends of the bank. In fact, the problem faced by children every day can be easily solved through the involvement of parents. However, this certainly does not help children become independent. He will get used to "escape" to parents in case of problems, ie, which used to depend on others for small things too.
Then try what can parents do to ensure that children usually do not trust someone, and can make decisions? Here are some things that you can apply to train children to become independent.
The opportunity to choose
Children who are accustomed to dealing with situations or things that are defined by others, be lazy to make their own choices. Conversely, if it is multiple choice, he was trained to make their own decisions for themselves. For example, before determining the menu that day, the mother provides some alternative dishes to choose children for lunch. Also in choosing clothes that will be used to go to the party of his friend, for example. The habit of making decisions - decisions alone in a small scale at first, it will be easier to determine and decide their own future things in life.
We appreciate your efforts
Observe any effort to resolve their own children are shown the difficulties encountered. Parents in general do not tolerate children who need time to open his own box of candy. Especially when that time the mother was busy in the kitchen, for example. So parents should give you the opportunity to test and did not intervene directly to help open it. Explains also told that to open the boxes will be easier when using the tip of a spoon, for example. The possibility that you provide will be felt, child as a reward for their efforts, encourage him to do things their own little style.
Avoid asking questions
The parents' questions, which aims to demonstrate the care of children, can be interpreted as an attitude that many want to know. Therefore, to avoid an uneasy feeling. For example, children who had just returned from school, gets upset if attacked with questions - questions like,, and "Why we fight dirty uniform while in school?" "Whatever it is learning in school?" and so on. Instead, the child will be happy and feel welcome when they are greeted by a short sentence: "Hello, boys' mother was home from school" So if there are things you want I mean, of course, the child says parents, without the push-push.
Not directly answer the question
Although the main task is to provide accurate information and knowledge to children, but parents should not respond directly to questions. Instead, given the opportunity to answer this question. And if that is their job to correct the wrong answer or give a prize if he was right. This material was formed to find alternatives to solving problems. For example, "Mommy, why should we take a shower twice a day?" Let the children give responses according to what he knows. Thus, the child had learned to accept the parents' responses not only would be accepted as a standard response.
Encourage them to seek other solutions
It is recommended that the child knows that to solve a problem, parents are not the only place on earth. There are many other sources outside the home that can help overcome the problems encountered. To do this, how parents can do is to notify other appropriate sources to assist in the implementation to solve a specific problem. Thus, the child depends not only on parents, it is not impossible that one day it will be difficult for him. For example, when the child reaches parents and complained that the bike sounds while driving. You can give the answer. "Why, yes, we will see in a bike shop"
Not break his spirit
Often parents want to prevent children from being disturbed by saying "impossible" to the child what is attempted. In fact, if the child is ready to show a desire for independence, encourage her to continue to do so. You never make him lose motivation or expectations of something I want to achieve. If children ask permission, "Mom, do Andi home from school over car shuttle to allow" Actions replying: "Yes, if Andi wants to commute by car, Andi had to get up early and go home for lunch the. better not, yes, "as they will surely do the children lose the motivation to become independent.
If the mother says, "Andi wants to ride the shuttle car Gee, sounds like fun, so try to tell Andi his mother, why a shuttle car .." In this way, the less children know that parents actually took support to be independent. Although time, with patterns, you ask, these requirements were not met.
Directly or give advice, solutions to do when the child is finished counting the argument with friends of the bank. In fact, the problem faced by children every day can be easily solved through the involvement of parents. However, this certainly does not help children become independent. He will get used to "escape" to parents in case of problems, ie, which used to depend on others for small things too.
Then try what can parents do to ensure that children usually do not trust someone, and can make decisions? Here are some things that you can apply to train children to become independent.
The opportunity to choose
Children who are accustomed to dealing with situations or things that are defined by others, be lazy to make their own choices. Conversely, if it is multiple choice, he was trained to make their own decisions for themselves. For example, before determining the menu that day, the mother provides some alternative dishes to choose children for lunch. Also in choosing clothes that will be used to go to the party of his friend, for example. The habit of making decisions - decisions alone in a small scale at first, it will be easier to determine and decide their own future things in life.
We appreciate your efforts
Observe any effort to resolve their own children are shown the difficulties encountered. Parents in general do not tolerate children who need time to open his own box of candy. Especially when that time the mother was busy in the kitchen, for example. So parents should give you the opportunity to test and did not intervene directly to help open it. Explains also told that to open the boxes will be easier when using the tip of a spoon, for example. The possibility that you provide will be felt, child as a reward for their efforts, encourage him to do things their own little style.
Avoid asking questions
The parents' questions, which aims to demonstrate the care of children, can be interpreted as an attitude that many want to know. Therefore, to avoid an uneasy feeling. For example, children who had just returned from school, gets upset if attacked with questions - questions like,, and "Why we fight dirty uniform while in school?" "Whatever it is learning in school?" and so on. Instead, the child will be happy and feel welcome when they are greeted by a short sentence: "Hello, boys' mother was home from school" So if there are things you want I mean, of course, the child says parents, without the push-push.
Not directly answer the question
Although the main task is to provide accurate information and knowledge to children, but parents should not respond directly to questions. Instead, given the opportunity to answer this question. And if that is their job to correct the wrong answer or give a prize if he was right. This material was formed to find alternatives to solving problems. For example, "Mommy, why should we take a shower twice a day?" Let the children give responses according to what he knows. Thus, the child had learned to accept the parents' responses not only would be accepted as a standard response.
Encourage them to seek other solutions
It is recommended that the child knows that to solve a problem, parents are not the only place on earth. There are many other sources outside the home that can help overcome the problems encountered. To do this, how parents can do is to notify other appropriate sources to assist in the implementation to solve a specific problem. Thus, the child depends not only on parents, it is not impossible that one day it will be difficult for him. For example, when the child reaches parents and complained that the bike sounds while driving. You can give the answer. "Why, yes, we will see in a bike shop"
Not break his spirit
Often parents want to prevent children from being disturbed by saying "impossible" to the child what is attempted. In fact, if the child is ready to show a desire for independence, encourage her to continue to do so. You never make him lose motivation or expectations of something I want to achieve. If children ask permission, "Mom, do Andi home from school over car shuttle to allow" Actions replying: "Yes, if Andi wants to commute by car, Andi had to get up early and go home for lunch the. better not, yes, "as they will surely do the children lose the motivation to become independent.
If the mother says, "Andi wants to ride the shuttle car Gee, sounds like fun, so try to tell Andi his mother, why a shuttle car .." In this way, the less children know that parents actually took support to be independent. Although time, with patterns, you ask, these requirements were not met.
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